Anytime a relationship has problems, it’s easy to look somewhere else to get what you want. A marriage is a prime example of this. Rather than fix the problems, why not just get the attention you’re missing from someone else? A lot of the time that someone else isn’t the ideal stranger. Instead, it’s someone you already know. In a lot of situations where marriages are troubled, it’s not unusual to find yourself fantasizing about your wife’s friends. If they’re smoking hot and have always been flirty with you, it’s easy to transfer your sexual appetite over, especially if you’re having bad sex or no sex at all with your wife. If you start hooking up with a friend of your wife, though, you need to be very careful in order to keep from getting caught.
If you still love your wife and don’t want the marriage to end, make that clear to her friend before you start sleeping with her. If that’s the case she might even bail, which is okay. If she doesn’t, she’s aware that you’re not looking to find a replacement for your wife. You should be clear about the fact that what you want is just sex, too. You don’t want any confusion about whether or not there’s emotion involved, because if she thinks there is she might end up falling for you. Put everything out there before you start having sex to make sure there’s no risk of things becoming more screwed up than they already are.
In the heat of the moment it’s easy to say things you don’t mean. If she says something romantic during sex, you might think you have to say the same thing. Don’t. Doing that is the same as leading her on. You’re not trying to make her fall for you. You’re sleeping with her because you’re not getting any at home. Saying things you don’t mean is just going to make her think you might have feelings for her. Once she starts thinking that, it won’t be long before she develops feelings for you. Don’t say anything you don’t mean to avoid that kind of mess.
Be Very Careful
If you’re screwing her friend, it can be very easy for your wife to find out. You need to take discreet to a whole new level in order to get away with it. This means hooking up in places far away from your normal hangouts. It also means that you’re going to have to get creative with your excuses. Inventing business meetings and unexpected appointments is only going to work for so long. You also need to make sure that your excuses aren’t similar to hers. Your wife will figure it out if you and her friend are always out on the same nights together.
The fact of the matter is that no matter how careful you are, the chances of you getting caught having an affair with her friend are very high. So if you can’t keep it in your pants and start sleeping with her friend, always be aware that it’s not going to last forever. You need a contingency plan. Come up with your excuses or denials beforehand so that you’re ready when the shit hits the fan.